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I guess the word 'Friend' is too difficult to define. Or rather, the word is easy to define but it is the definition of a friend that is difficult to define.

My Longman dictionary says a friend is someone you know and like very much and enjoy spending time with. But of course it's not that simple as all of us know.

I once posted this reply for this topic of To you, What is the definition of friend? in RBKD's forum:

I think friends are the people
who will understand how you truly feels,
who will give you personal space sometimes,
who will stand by you when something bad happens.

But I think the more important one is that they should never lie to you.

I'm starting to think it's more than that too. I definitely think a friend needs to know how you really feel. But's it's not that easy anyway. I doubt anyone would really know how I feel. Apart from myself.

Hmm, I think space is a must. I don't see the point of going to the toilet together, eating the same food, doing every single thing together. I don't see why I should compromise just because a friend wants it. (Eg. I won't go into the same CCA with you just because you are my friend and you want us to be together.) Because in the end if you don't like it it's your problem, not hers. Because she likes it. And I absolutely detest people that gets angry just because you went for lunch with another friend. Stuff like that. Or something like 'Oh I don't like her so I don't want you to like her' sort of thing. Urgh.

As for the third one, I don't expect.

I believe mutual trust is the most important. I don't expect friends to tell all their secrets or anything like that, but just don't lie. I think trust is the most important for any kind of relationships. Something that keeps a relationship going on.

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To be honest, I don't know if I have friends. Or whether people regard me as a friend.

Sometimes there are way too many restrictions. Too many expectations. Too many imperfections. Too many things that keep us apart.

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